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Why Women Fantasise About Rough Sex

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If you’re into rough sex, you’re definitely not alone.

When I surveyed more than 4,000 Americans about their sexual fantasies for my book Tell Me What You Want, rough sex turned out to be one of the two most common things people had fantasized about. Most people—regardless of gender and sexual orientation—appear to have been turned on by the idea at some point.

The widespread appeal of rough sex can also be seen in people’s porn-viewing habits. For example, when you look at the most-viewed genres on Pornhub, “rough sex” and “hardcore” pretty consistently appear in the top third of categories year in and year out. Interestingly, women are even more likely to view this kind of porn than are men.

So why is rough sex arousing to so many people, and especially to women?

A recent study published in the journal Evolutionary Psychological Science offers some answers.

Researchers surveyed 734 college students in New York about their attitudes toward and experiences with consensual rough sex. Most of the students identified as female (77%) and as heterosexual (92%).

A majority of the sample (51%) said they had engaged in rough sex before, with the most frequently reported rough sex behaviours including scratching, spanking, pushing, name-calling, tearing clothes, tying up, blindfolding, and slapping.

Before we go further, I should note that the authors of this study talk about these behaviours as “playful force” rather than as abuse or violence. Keep in mind that these are consensual behaviours that, more often than not, occurred in the context of a long-term relationship and rarely (less than 1% of the time) resulted in any kind of serious injury. In other words, we aren’t talking about behaviours where people truly wanted or tried to hurt a partner.

In fact, people seemed to really be enjoying this kind of sex. When asked to compare how rough sex differs from “typical sex,” both men and women said that orgasms are more frequent and intense, partners make more effort to satisfy one another, the sex is more arousing, and the thrusting is more vigorous.

Plus, women said that they orgasm much faster when they have rough sex. Given that there’s already a fairly big disparity in how long it takes men and women to reach orgasm (5-6 minutes vs. 13 minutes, respectively), perhaps this is one reason rough sex is so widely desired and why women search for it more than men when viewing porn: Rough sex just might help to close the orgasm gap.

Beyond these enhancing effects on orgasm, what else might draw people to rough sex?

Participants in this study were given a long list of potential triggers of rough sex and asked to report whether they’d ever been prompted to have rough sex for each reason.

Among the most common triggers were trying something new, boredom, and playing out a fantasy. This tells us that rough sex is often just about feeding our need for sexual novelty. Humans—men and women alike—have a tendency to grow tired of sexual routines. We need to keep mixing things up in order to maintain sexual excitement, a phenomenon sex researchers refer to as the Coolidge Effect.

Another common trigger for rough sex, especially among men, was having been separated from one’s partner, as well as suspecting that one’s partner may have cheated. The authors of this study interpret these results through the same evolutionary lens: When men perceive a risk that their female partner has had sex with someone else, this triggers sperm competition. In other words, it leads men to engage in sexual behaviours—like deep and vigorous thrusting—aimed at displacing any semen that may have been deposited by rival men so that their own sperm have a better shot at fertilization.

Drinking alcohol was another common trigger, which makes sense: Alcohol simultaneously lowers sexual inhibitions and dulls sexual sensations. This combination of factors ups the odds of trying something you might not otherwise do while sober, while also experimenting with more intense activities in order to counteract the depressing effect that alcohol has on our sexual system (which includes suppressing arousal and delaying orgasm).

Lastly, the other major set of triggers included situations where people were already in a heightened state of physiological arousals, such as after a fight, being angry at one’s partner, and having just exercised. These triggers can be explained by something psychologists call excitation transfer, which occurs when carryover arousal from one situation amplifies our arousal or excitement in an unrelated situation. In other words, if your body is already amped up at the start of a sexual encounter, that’s going to lay the groundwork for pursuing a more active and intense experience.

What all of this tells us is that there isn’t just one reason why rough sex is such a popular sexual fantasy and porn theme. Instead, it turns out that there are a lot of different factors that draw people to it.

The key thing to take away from this is that rough sex appears to be a normative sexual interest and we need to be very careful to distinguish it from sexual violence and relationship abuse. Rough sex is not exploitative—it is consensual and the people who have it are reporting an intense, mutually enjoyable experience.

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Please Don’t Put Me In Trouble : Twitter Female User Tells Womanizer? | SEE

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Twitter is the buzz now.

In a post-KUBILIVE came across, a female Twitter user has called out on a Male user to not put her in trouble.

The male user in a post shared a photo of a female user who asked him not to put him in trouble.

Could this mean the guy is a womanizer as the guy is trying to be careful?

See below.

https://twitter.com/akua_bouncy/status/1221921666646925313?s=19

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Finally, WhatsApp Rolls Out Dark Theme For Android Users

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Dark Mode: WhatsApp Rolls Out Dark Theme For Android Users: What everyone especially Android users has been waiting for is finally here. WhatsApp just rolled out the dark theme feature to its Android users.

In this article, I will be guiding you on how to set up the dark mode on WhatsApp, tell you what the Dark mode is all about, how to be eligible for it.

NOTE: Dark Mode and Dark Theme are the same thing and feature. So wherever you see or hear it, just know that they are talking about the same thing. Some apps call it “Dark Theme, some call it “Dark Mode”.

What Dark Mode Means?
Dark mode or theme is when an operating system user interface (UI) introduces or switches from the default light mode to a darker one. Though in all cases the developers always give users the option to always switch from Dark Mode to Light mode. Whichever one feels comfortable for your eyes, you can always switch to it.

WhatsApp Dark Theme for Android
WhatsApp has just released the dark theme feature for its Android users in the recent update on the Google play store, all Android users who were eager to use the feature can now enjoy it.

WhatsApp Dark Theme Requirements
How to be eligible for the WhatsApp dark theme feature. To be eligible for this feature make sure you have the below requirements.

1. You need the latest version 2.20.16 of WhatsApp which you can get by updating your app on the Google play store

2. As at when this article was published, WhatsApp is only rolling out the dark theme feature for its Android Beta program testers which hopefully would be rolled out to all users in a week time

IMPORTANT NOTICE: If your WhatsApp is already updated to the above version I mentioned and you still can’t find the feature, fear not, you will get the feature after a week or less.

How To Know if you are eligible for WhatsApp Dark theme
After updating to the latest version I mentioned do the following;

Step 1: Launch your WhatsApp
Step 2: Go-to WhatsApp settings
Step 3: Tap On Chats
Step 4: First option you would see on the Chats window is “Display”.

Check dark theme feature

On the display options, here you would know that you are eligible for the Dark theme feature.

But if you don’t see the Display options after opening your chat window, then you are not eligible yet.

WhatsApp Display Option Includes:
1. Theme
2. Wallpaper

On the theme option, it has 3 different theme options which include:

1. System Default
2. Light
3. Dark

WhatsApp system Default Theme:
This is the default theme of your device. If you are using light or dark mode on your device, WhatsApp will automatically use the device theme.

WhatsApp Light Theme:
This is the default WhatsApp theme you and I know (dark Green and white)

WhatsApp Dark Theme:
This is the newly added theme by WhatsApp for dark theme lovers. Everything turns dark, the delivery checks, the chat background, etc

How To Set Up Dark Theme/Mode On WhatsApp
Step 1: Launch your WhatsApp

Step 2: Go-to WhatsApp settings

Step 3: Tap On “Chats”

Step 4: Tap on “Themes”

Step 5: Select “Dark”

Step 6: Tap on “Ok”

Whatsapp dark theme

Conclusion
The Dark theme is still under development stage and available mostly for beta testers of the app. WhatsApp would be rolling it officially for all users in a week’s time.

Watch how to sep up WhatsApp Dark Mode Below.

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Eating Gari Soakings Is Bad For Your Health : Medical Experts Warns

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One food that is popular among the Ghanaian and Nigerian community is gari. Whiles the Ghanaians have different styles or ways of eating gari which has also been given the name ‘Agyenkwa’ meaning saviour, Nigerians prefer to use it as ‘eba’.

But according to a Nigerian medical expert identified as Dr. Boniface Okolo has said that soaked gari (or gari soakings as it’s called here in Ghana) causes Lassa Fever as the rodents that cause this disease are often in contact with gari, during an interview with News Agency of Nigeria (NAN).

He added that it was necessary to discourage consumption of soaked gari since it did not require boiled water. Dr. Okolo noted that boiled water could go a long way to kill bacteria caused by pests or rodents in gari.

“We in the state health ministry are waging total war against rodents through sensitization, that is what we are doing to ensure we do not have a victim of Lassa fever in the state.

“We are also sensitizing the public to ensure that their fruits and raw vegetables are properly washed if they must be consumed them raw and cook to the appropriate temperature.

“The best practices for food storage should be encouraged to prevent an epidemic. ”We should always make sure that we use air-tight clean plastic containers to preserve our foodstuff to avoid Lassa fever and other diseases,” he said.

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